If you know me, you know Kobe's "father" isn't in his life. He hasn't been since 2007 when Kobe was one. His 2nd birthday, which was a few months after he left, was the only birthday he ever got a present from him. He never called to check on him nothing. If I would call or email him he wouldn't respond. I however did receive child support at times they were hit and miss payments. This past Wed I got a payment for 20$. I sent Jason a text at work and told him I got a pmt of $20 just because I tell Jason everything lol. Well that Sunday we were outside waiting on Kobe to get home from spending the night at my parents. Jason, out of the blue, says to me.. I might as well adopt Kobe since your not getting support anyways. I was shocked and looked at him and said why do you say that. He said well its not like his dad even supports him so I'll just adopt him and make him legally mine. That's all that was said because my mom was there with Kobe and the guys headed off to squirrel hunt. That next morning (Monday) Kobe and I were driving into Washington and on the way to school Kobe says.. "Mom I want Jason to adopt me." I said you do? He said "Yeh I want him to be my real dad and be Kobe Lee Colvin" I told him that something to talk to Jason about when we got home. So I text Jason and asked if he had mentioned anything to Kobe about adopting him while they were squirrel hunting. He was like No I wouldn't say anything to him about that. I told him the conversation Kobe and I had on the way to school that morning (which made my big ol macho hubby tear up shhhh I didn't tell u that lol) Later that evening on the way home from Washington Kobe brought it up again. He asked if he could ask Jason to adopt him.. I told him we'd talk about it later with Jason. Well as soon as we got home and he saw Jason he was very shy acting and would just smile and hide his face. I asked Kobe if he wanted to say something to Jason and he said "you say it Mom" I said nooo.. just tell him. Well he went off playing and then asks me how to spell adopt so I knew he was up to something LOL. He then brings Jason a letter in and it says "Will you adopt me?" lol Jason got the biggest smile on his face and then asked Kobe questions as to why he wants him to adopt him. his reasons were that he wanted a real dad, he wanted Jason to be his real dad, and that his old dad was mean to him, and because he loved Jason. So we told him if it were to happen we'd have to get his real fathers permission and it will be a long process and we weren't sure it could happen.. and it wouldn't happen over night. He said he understood. But that night he wrote "Kobe Colvin" all over the place and drew pictures of our family. So the next day I emailed Kobe's "father" In the subject I put (to get his attention) "Giving up your rights to Kobe" this is the email I sent..
"My husband is wanting to adopt Kobe. We were wondering if you would be willing to sign your rights over. That will free you from all your rights, child support, and whatever else. I'm very serious about this and think it would be in the best interest for Kobe. We've talked to Kobe about this and this is what he is wanting as well. If you could please e-mail me or call me @ 812-***-**** Thanks.
Andrea"
I didn't figure I would ever get a response. I sent that email at 1:26PM and later about 7 I checked my email just to see if I got a response and I did! He sent a response at 6:24PM this is the response I got:
"I will sign my rights over. What do I need to do?"
That's it!
Nothing else.
Not even an "I'll think about it"
It upset me that he was so easy to give him up like that. I mean we were married for goodness sake. It wasn't just a one night stand. He wasn't a baby out of wedlock. It broke my heart. I cried... But I was happy it WAS that easy.
So now we go on with the adoption process. and soon Kobe will be Kobe Colvin :)
In other name changing news! My sister is getting remarried the end of this Oct! We are so excited to have Josh in our family! He fits in so well!..
Halloween is coming soon and Kobe has decided on being a vampire for Halloween this year.. Also
Lark Ranch is open and we are in the making of planning a day there. Also yesterday was opening day for deer hunting.. So we won't see Jason much :( lol but he'll bring home the bacon deer lol so our freezer will be stocked again! YAY!!
Here are the guys skinning a squirrel after squirrel hunting
Having a weenie roast for dinner
My pretty rose bush
Kobe making a tooth pillow. He doesn't even have a loose tooth.. but we are getting ready just in caseHis finish product
Went to E-ville with mom and Amanda to get wedding stuff which was a fail lol but Amanda treated us to Olive Garden Mmmm.. I love that place!
I got Kobe a "Small Fry" from Build a Bear! He LOVED it! He's a sucker for stuffed animals lol
Wow! Jason sounds like a wonderful guy. What a wonderful thing for Kobe. So cute that he wanted to be adopted and was writing his new name :)
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to say how happy I am for Kobe that Jason will be his dad! We talk about how we are D's "real" parents, even if we aren't her biological ones, because we are the ones who are going to be there for her forever. I don't know much about domestic or stepparent adoption, but let me know if you think I could help! Take care!
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